No matter how many of the variables in an identical situation are the same, there is still one anomaly- the person involved.
And everyone has a story.
We will all respond differently to the same incident no matter how minute the difference- different it will be. Or no matter how on our face we respond the same- trust me, there are some cogs at work in the brain center that are reading things unlike the way you are reading them.
That's the truth with some cheese on it.
So be patient.
and did I mention
Sometimes things get clearer when you take the time to hear someone and listen to their story. It may be you find out you're more like them than you thought. And still things couldn't be more different.
There's only one perfect one.
So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; 20 for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.- James 1:19-20